Originally posted on November 30, 2007 · by
FollowingtheSunnah
Is it Permissible to Talk to ones Fiancée over the
Telephone?
Answered by the
Muhadith, the ‘Allaama, Shaykh of Hadeeth Muhammad Nasr ud-Deen al-Albaani
Translated by Abbas Abu Yahya
This is a translation of the transcript of a question that
was asked to Shaykh al-Albaani – may Allaah have mercy upon him.
Shaykh: Yes
Questioner: Assalamu alaykum
Shaykh: wa Alaykum
Assalamu wa Rahmatullaahi wa Baraktuhu
Questioner: If you don’t mind is the noble Shaykh al-Albaani
there?
Shaykh: He’s with you.
Questioner: Good, if you would allow me O Shaykh I have some
questions to ask.
Shaykh: Go ahead.
Questioner: Is it permissible to talk to my fiancée over the
phone?
Shaykh: have you
contracted the marriage yet or not?
Questioner: not yet.
Shaykh: It’s not
permissible.
Questioner: Not permissible??
Shaykh: Not allowed.
Questioner: Even if
it’s for advice?
Shaykh: it’s not
permissible.
Questioner: ok is it permissible for me to visit her and sit
with her if the Mahram is present?
Shaykh: with a Mahram being present and she comes in front
of you wearing a Jilbaab in Hijab, like when she goes out, then it’s allowed,
otherwise no.
Questioner: is it possible for her to uncover her face?
Shaykh: it’s
possible, if it’s only the face.
Questioner: only the
face?
Shaykh: She shouldn’t wear a beautified dress and a short
dress etc.
Questioner: ok regarding sitting with her, what is
permissible for me to talk to her about?
Shaykh: Do not talk
to her except with what you would talk to with other than her.
Questioner: Ok if she
asks me for a picture of me, is it ok to give it to her or not?
Shaykh: just like if you asked her for her picture.
Questioner: yes??
Shaykh: I said just
like if you asked her for her picture.
Questioner: yeah.
Shaykh: Is it permissible?
Questioner: No.
Shaykh: and my answer is also no.
Questioner: your answer is no??
Shaykh: no, definitely no.
Questioner: about what??
Shaykh: About what! For the same thing what you said, that
you cannot ask her for her picture.
Questioner: yeah.
Shaykh: understand?
Questioner: yeah, yes.
Shaykh: If you understand then stick to it.
Questioner: But O Shaykh sometimes a person is forced to
phone her, is this permissible?
Shaykh: I don’t think there is a need, you want to marry her
don’t you?
Questioner: For example, is it permissible to phone her for
the possibility that I can visit her, at such and such time?
Shaykh: why do want
to visit her?! What’s the difference between her and any other woman?
Questioner: Do you
mean it’s not allowed to visit her?
Shaykh: O my brother,
I say to you what’s the difference between her and any other woman? Why do you
want to visit her? You want to marry her; you marry her by requesting it from
her guardian.
Questioner: If her guardian is present?
Shaykh: You want to marry her, you marry her by requesting
her guardian, if there is an original agreement then you can visit her if the
guardian is present, to see her and she sees you, as for visiting her then no!
Questioner: It’s still not allowed to visit even after the
engagement?
Shaykh: After the engagement?
Questioner: Yeah.
Shaykh: She remains to be a stranger to you O brother until
you perform the marriage contract.
Questioner: Thank you, may Allaah reward you O Shaykh.
Shaykh: And you.
Questioner: May Allaah be generous to you.
Shaykh: May Allaah protect you… Sallamu alayk.
Questioner: Assalamu
alaykum Shaykh
Wa Alaykum Assalamu wa Rahmatullaahi wa Baraktuhu
Taken from: Silsilah
Huda wa Noor, tape no. 269 at 10mins.
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