The legislative ruling concerning parents forcing their son to marry a woman he doesn’t want to and if he refuses is he considered one who is disobedient to his parents? by Shaykh 'Abd Al-Qādir Ibn Muḥammad al-Junayd حفظه الله

حكم إكراه الوالدين ولدهما على نكاح من لا يريد؟ وإذا رفض هل يكون عاقًا؟

قال الإمام ابن تيمية:

[وليس للأبوين إلزام الولد بنكاح من لا يريد، فإن امتنع فلا يكون عاقًا،

كأكل ما لا يريد]

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The legislative ruling concerning parents forcing their son to marry a woman he doesn’t want to and if he refuses is he considered one who is disobedient to his parents?

Ibn Taymiyyah رحمه الله stated:

And it is not the parent’s right to compel their son to marry someone he doesn’t want to. And if he refuses, he is not considered as being one who is disobedient  to his parents, just like it is impermissible to force him to eat what he doesn’t want to.

Source: “Ikhtiyaraat Ibn Taymiyyah”, al Ba’li, pg. 200

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8/4/18, 5:47 PM

Is it Permissible to Talk to Ones Fiancée over the Telephone?

Originally posted on November 30, 2007 · by FollowingtheSunnah

Is it Permissible to Talk to ones Fiancée over the Telephone?

Answered by the Muhadith, the ‘Allaama, Shaykh of Hadeeth Muhammad Nasr ud-Deen al-Albaani

Translated by Abbas Abu Yahya

This is a translation of the transcript of a question that was asked to Shaykh al-Albaani – may Allaah have mercy upon him.

Shaykh: Yes

Questioner: Assalamu alaykum

Shaykh: wa Alaykum Assalamu wa Rahmatullaahi wa Baraktuhu

Questioner: If you don’t mind is the noble Shaykh al-Albaani there?

Shaykh: He’s with you.

Questioner: Good, if you would allow me O Shaykh I have some questions to ask.

 Shaykh: Go ahead.

Questioner: Is it permissible to talk to my fiancée over the phone?

 Shaykh: have you contracted the marriage yet or not?

 Questioner: not yet.

 Shaykh: It’s not permissible.

Questioner: Not permissible??

 Shaykh: Not allowed.

 Questioner: Even if it’s for advice?

 Shaykh: it’s not permissible.

Questioner: ok is it permissible for me to visit her and sit with her if the Mahram is present?

Shaykh: with a Mahram being present and she comes in front of you wearing a Jilbaab in Hijab, like when she goes out, then it’s allowed, otherwise no.

Questioner: is it possible for her to uncover her face?

Shaykh: it’s possible, if it’s only the face.

Questioner: only the face?

Shaykh: She shouldn’t wear a beautified dress and a short dress etc.

Questioner: ok regarding sitting with her, what is permissible for me to talk to her about?

Shaykh: Do not talk to her except with what you would talk to with other than her.

Questioner: Ok if she asks me for a picture of me, is it ok to give it to her or not?

Shaykh: just like if you asked her for her picture.

Questioner: yes??

Shaykh: I said just like if you asked her for her picture.

Questioner: yeah.

Shaykh: Is it permissible?

Questioner: No. 

Shaykh: and my answer is also no.

Questioner: your answer is no??

Shaykh: no, definitely no.

Questioner: about what??

Shaykh: About what! For the same thing what you said, that you cannot ask her for her picture.

Questioner: yeah.

Shaykh: understand?

Questioner: yeah, yes.

Shaykh: If you understand then stick to it.

Questioner: But O Shaykh sometimes a person is forced to phone her, is this permissible?

Shaykh: I don’t think there is a need, you want to marry her don’t you?

Questioner: For example, is it permissible to phone her for the possibility that I can visit her, at such and such time?

Shaykh: why do want to visit her?! What’s the difference between her and any other woman?

Questioner: Do you mean it’s not allowed to visit her?

Shaykh: O my brother, I say to you what’s the difference between her and any other woman? Why do you want to visit her? You want to marry her; you marry her by requesting it from her guardian.

Questioner: If her guardian is present?

Shaykh: You want to marry her, you marry her by requesting her guardian, if there is an original agreement then you can visit her if the guardian is present, to see her and she sees you, as for visiting her then no!

Questioner: It’s still not allowed to visit even after the engagement?

Shaykh: After the engagement?

Questioner: Yeah.

Shaykh: She remains to be a stranger to you O brother until you perform the marriage contract.

Questioner: Thank you, may Allaah reward you O Shaykh.

Shaykh: And you. 

Questioner: May Allaah be generous to you.

Shaykh: May Allaah protect you… Sallamu alayk.

Questioner: Assalamu alaykum Shaykh

Wa Alaykum Assalamu wa Rahmatullaahi wa Baraktuhu

Taken from: Silsilah Huda wa Noor, tape no. 269 at 10mins.

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Source: https://followingthesunnah.com/2007/11/30/is-it-permissible-to-talk-to-ones-fiancee-over-the-telephone/

Talaq for false reason

بـسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

[Fatwa no. 263]

Q: A man received some false letters against his wife, which he believed to be true and gave his wife Talaq (divorce pronounced by a husband) accordingly. Later, he learned that they were fabricated and asks whether his Talaq is effective or not?

A: If the reality is as mentioned that the husband divorced his wife only because of these letters which he thought to be true, but were then found to be false, his Talaq does not count.

This Talaq falls under the ‘conditional divorce’ which becomes effective when a certain condition occurs and in this case, the condition has not occurred.

 May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet, his family, and Companions!

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Source:  Fatwas of the Permanent Committee, Group 1,Volume. 20, Fatwa no. 263|Alifta.Net

Should a suitor be informed of the woman's medical history?

بـسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Q: If a girl undergoes an abdominal surgery, for example, after birth or a few months later; should her family inform her suitor of this surgery which left a scar up till now? Does he have a Shar`y (Islamic legal) right to know something like this or not?

A: All praise be to Allah, the Lord of the worlds, and peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, his Companions, and those who follow his guidance until the Day of Resurrection. To proceed:

Muslims should be truthful in all matters, as trustfulness leads to every good and saves from all evil. If a suitor proposes to a young woman who has scars due to surgical procedures, her family should inform him, as some people may not accept or tolerate such marks. Furthermore, this may lead to serious problems between them and he may accuse her of having defects. The family of the bride should inform the suitor about her case to be clear from the beginning and not to expose themselves to blame later on.

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Source: Fatwas by His Eminence Shaykh `Abdul-`Aziz ibn `Abdullah Al Al-Shaykh|Alifta.Net