Imaam As-Shawkaani
[rahimahullaah] said:
Indeed, [amongst] the people
[i.e. believers] – those with the loftiest station in goodness and the
worthiest of being described as such – are those people who give their families
the best treatment, for indeed the family of a person are worthier of being
approached with cheerfulness, good manners and kindness, bringing good to them
and repelling harm from them. So, if a man is like this [to his family], he is from
the best of the people [i.e. in this affair]; but if not, he is on the opposite
side – evil [behaviour]. The people often fall into this [behaviour], so you
see a man being the most ill-mannered, the most selfish and the least in
bringing good when he meets his family; but when he meets others, he become
good natured, good mannered, upright and brings a lot of good. Indeed, there is
no doubt that the one who is like this is deprived and has deviated from the
right path [i.e. in this affair]. And we ask Allaah for safety [from evil].
Naylul Awtaar’ 8/121.
Slightly paraphrased
Translation source: The
Salaficentre of Manchester
